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They should be told
something before going. How much, and when,
depends on the maturity of the child. Most parents
have good gut responses to the level of
consultation appropriate to various situations. In
respect of naturism, there will be "in the family"
attitudes to nudity to take into account. Things
like whether any or all family members bath/shower
with the door locked, for example. Just as
children happily use different vocabularies with
their peers and with their parents (and yet
another one with teachers, etc), they seem to have
no problem presenting different attitudes in
different situations (hey, adults do it all the
time - where do you think they learned to do it?).
So while they might feel peer pressure to regard
social nudity as "rude", "naughty", "sexy" or
"gross" (depending on who is nude in front of
whom), and would happily echo such attitudes, they
may also happily enjoy family naturism in the back
garden, or have a great time at a naturist resort.
Young children,
say those under 5 or 6 years old, can just be
taken. For young, easy-going kids a simple "right,
we're off to the swimming pool now" could well be
all that's required.
We did not
bother telling the kids , they were used to us
and them being nude around the house and seemed
to accept others doing the same. (they told
nearly everyone, you can not stop that). Our
kids were quite young, I suppose if they were
older you would have to explain, maybe the
easiest way to introduce them to naturism is to
go to swims first as it is more natural (to
them) to undress to swim, but less so to
socialise nude. Make sure where you are going
has other children as this will help a lot.
Primary age
children should have it explained to them before
going that people will not be wearing swim suits
and they will not need to wear one either.
Any initial reticence about going will disappear
very quickly once they start to have fun.
For adolescents,
broach the outing in advance, making it clear that
the swim is naturist, and that there will
be no obligation on the child to go or to be nude
if they do go.
It is advisable
to check whether the venue is nudity compulsory as
it is best to give children the choice. I have
been told that this is the CCBN Child Protection
recommendation. Some of the contributors advised
avoiding child nudity compulsory venues because of
the child protection implications. The under fives
couldn't care less what they are, or are not,
wearing.
Putting pressure
on children to remove costumes is likely to be
counter productive. If no big deal is made about
it, they do normally dispense with them in their
own time.
One respondent
felt that children should always be fully
consulted and given the choice, but others felt
that they should do as their parents decided.
I coaxed a
friend into going. We discussed it one morning,
her 8-9 y/o daughter was with us at the time.
The daughter didn't want to go because of the
nudity. That evening, we all went. The daughter
was in tears. The daughter gladly went again and
again and again - and got her elder sister to go
too.
So, would it
have been right to let her back out ?
However, many
consider that to be a high risk strategy.
Obviously,
there shouldn't be pressure. If it's clear that
a child doesn't want to go, or wouldn't be
happy, then it's totally pointless dragging them
along. OK, so they just might "love it
when they got there", but most kids like to
prove that their presumptions were the right
ones. "I told you this museum would be
Bore-RING!" As regards naturism, in my opinion a
key factor in making it OK for kids of
particular ages/attitudes to come along is to
make it clear that costumes are optional
(actually seems to be desirable for adults - eg
the success of the MADNAT taster sessions and
ladies-only pre-sessions). Unless the kids are
confirmed naturists themselves, even if they've
experienced beach/holiday naturism they may feel
uncomfortable at the idea of going to a local
swimming pool without a costume. So any swim
with an absolute no cozzies policy should
be avoided.
Peer and sibling
influences can be funny things:
Kids are funny
concerning choice. We have a family at MADNAT,
two girls (one of his and one of hers) and a
baby (one of theirs). One of the girls will
invariably wear her costume if her step-sister
is present and invariably be naked if her
step-sister is not there.
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