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We are born naked.
Everyone knows that.
But the moment we
leave the womb, we are wrapped in a blanket, and
the skin hardly ever sees the light of day again.
For the next 70+ years of life, we wrap our skin
in a cocoon of fabric.
Is this healthy
for our bodies? Were our bodies designed to be
forever clothed? If you believe in evolution, the
answer has to be no. Of course evolution didn't
create a body designed for clothing.
If you believe in
the Judeo-Christian divine creation of the human
body, the answer must still be no. Adam and Eve
lived naked in the garden of Eden. That's what
their bodies were designed to do.
Why have this
magnificent organ of skin enveloping our entire
bodies, every square inch of it covered with
delicate sensory nerves and sophisticated
temperature regulation pores, then wrap it up 24/7
in artificial coverings so it's all useless?
Clothing can keep us warm in extreme conditions.
But in other cases, it actually interferes with
the body's natural temperature regulation
processes. It's obvious that a hot day would be
much easier to tolerate nude than clothed. But
those with experience can also testify that the
nude body is able to comfortably withstand cool
temperatures much easier than most people think,
because clothes aren't interfering with the body's
attempt to regulate internal temperature.
Protection
against cold, against the elements, against injury
while performing risky activities--these are good
reasons for covering the miraculous organ of skin
with clothing. But how can it possibly be healthy
to never let it "breathe"--at least for an hour or
two every day?
Experts are now
starting to tell us that children are not getting
enough sun. Between the hysteria of always
remaining clothed and the latest fear craze of
developing skin cancer, children are suffering
from a vitamin D deficiency, even to the point
where that supposedly archaic disease of rickets
is beginning to return.
(By the way, it's
much easier to notice a malignant skin tumor early
enough for successful treatment if you let other
people see you naked now and then.)
Physical health
is only one aspect of nudity. What about our
emotional health?
Who are we? We
are our bodies. Whatever attitude we have
toward our bodies is the attitude we have toward
ourselves.
And what is the
attitude we have toward our bodies? Shame.
This shame may
very well be the most pervasive emotional
conditioning of our lives. We prefer to call it
brainwashing because it's forced upon us
throughout our lives, warps our natural attitudes
toward our and others' bodies, and is a deeply
emotional, irrational process. Emotional abuse, in
our opinion.
Is there a child
on earth who is born with an aversion to nudity?
Does any child care about nude bodies? Does seeing
a nude body mean anything at all to a young child?
Does being nude mean anything to a child,
other than perhaps a more comfortable state of
dress to be in than having clothing pressed
against one's body?
What child
wouldn't love to rip his or her clothes off and
run around naked, just for the simple pleasure of
it?
So where does the
negative reaction to nudity come from?
Do kids grow into
it naturally? Nonsense! All the societies in the
history of humankind that have accepted public
nudity or near-nudity would never have existed
were this true.
No, the negative
reaction to nudity must be brainwashed into
children. And how is that done?
Through shame.
Children won't leave clothes on unless we shame or
threaten them into doing it.
Now why isn't
that emotional abuse?
From the moment
of birth, when they wrap that blanket around the
newborn, we are emotionally conditioned to think
of our bodies as shameful. Every minute of every
day of our lives, with rare exceptions, the
brainwashing is reinforced. Every moment we cover
our bodies we are communicating the subliminal
message to our subconscious that our bodies are
shameful and must be hidden.
Every minute of
every day. Is there any other type of emotional
conditioning we are immersed in more?
Even our moments
of nudity do not save us. When we bathe, we go
into a private bathroom, close and often lock the
door, pull the shower curtain, and shower
nude--all alone out of sight of others. Bodily
functions are done the same way.
Not even doctor's
offices or locker rooms give us a break anymore.
The hysterical fear of nudity in our society has
become so great that nudity has almost disappeared
entirely from these locales traditionally designed
to accept nudity. In the doctor's office we remain
covered up with our clothing or with hospital
gowns, only revealing small patches of our skin
when absolutely necessary. Locker rooms, saunas,
etc., have lost the tradition of nudity within
them. This isn't even mixed group nudity we're
talking about. Even among our own sex we hide our
bodies, either by not being nude at all, or by
changing in a stall, or by keeping a towel
carefully wrapped around ourselves.
Even when we are
nude, we hide our bodies in shame. Every minute of
every day.
We swim with
clothes on, even though that's insane. We sleep
with clothes on, even though we're tucked away
under a blanket where no one will see us. We even
stay dressed in front of our spouse--our sex
partner--who has already seen us naked in the most
intimate of circumstances and with whom more than
anyone else we ought to feel comfortable being
naked. Even in the privacy of our homes we stay
dressed. Why?
We do it because
body shame has been so deeply ingrained into our
psyche that we can't imagine doing anything else.
Nudity under virtually all circumstances seems so
foreign to us that we can't see it as anything but
a bizarre aberration, if not a downright
perversion.
But we all have a
body. There are billions and billions of human
bodies spread throughout this world. Within the
two sexes, every one of them is the same as every
other. We all know what they look like--we all
know what equipment they have. What on earth do we
think we're hiding from each other?
Actually, we are
not thinking at all when we have a negative
reaction to nudity, whether we see others nude or
others see us nude. It's purely an emotional,
irrational reaction, based on a lifetime of
deep, thorough emotional conditioning.
Emotional abuse.
Isn't it
emotional abuse to condition your children to have
feelings of shame and horror simply because
someone accidentally sees them naked?
Isn't it
emotional abuse to condition your children to feel
shock, fear, or disgust at the mere sight of a
human body?
Our bodies are
ourselves. When we feel shame, fear, horror over
bodies, we are feeling those feelings about
ourselves or about our fellow human beings.
No wonder people
have such a hard time relating to each other. We
fear each other at a very basic level. We are all
forced by nature or God to carry naked bodies
with us wherever we go! Those dreadful, shocking,
shameful naked bodies! What was God thinking?
How can we
possibly interact normally with each other,
steeped in attitudes like that?
Exactly what
negative consequences result from shaming children
into wearing clothes, and continuing that
brainwashing process until the day they die?
Children are left
in ignorance. We think it's a wonderful,
educational thing to take children to the zoo. But
what do they do at the zoo? Stare at the naked
bodies of animals. This is considered very
educational. And it is.
Yet children are
never allowed to stare at the naked bodies of the
species that is most important for them to learn
about. Their own--human beings. It's great for
them to learn all about the bodies of lions and
tigers and bears, oh my! But never the body of the
species they belong to and will marry. Never the
body they live within throughout their lives.
Children don't
get to fully understand and accept the differences
between the sexes. Boys have penises, girls have
vaginas. This is an undisputed fact of life. But
to a boy who is not allowed to learn about human
bodies, a girl does not have a vagina--she has
been castrated of her penis. To a girl, a boy
doesn't have a penis--he has a strange growth
where his vagina should be. And these are the boys
and girls lucky enough to have caught a glimpse of
the opposite sex naked.
Then we wonder
why there is so much sexual dysfunction in
marriages?
Children don't
get to become comfortable with the process of
puberty before it happens. When their bodies start
changing, it's a traumatic thing. Why? Because
it's natural for puberty to be traumatic?
Absolutely not!
It's a completely natural part of the human life
cycle.
It's traumatic
because they are not prepared for it. Is that not
emotional abuse?
They start
growing hair around their pubic area and within
their armpits. What is that all about? For boys,
the penis enlarges (is it diseased?) and hair
begins to grow on the face. For girls, the vagina
begins to bleed (am I injured?) and breasts being
to enlarge on their chests.
How many horror
stories have there been about children who were
totally unprepared for these changes? Is that not
child abuse, to allow children to enter this
period of life unprepared simply because their
parents are embarrassed to talk about it (thanks
to their own emotional brainwashing from their
parents)?
But even with
children who have been "educated" about puberty,
is the trauma completely absent? No, because the
education is lacking in a vital area. Words cannot
communicate anywhere near as effectively as images
can. You can talk all day to a boy about how
penises or to a girl about how breasts come in all
sizes and shapes, but it won't remove the fear
that their penis or breasts are abnormal. But if
they have opportunities to see penises and breasts
in all their amazing variety, the point is driven
home that their body is just as normal and
acceptable as anyone else's.
Children are not
allowed to satisfy their perfectly natural
curiosity when it's safe to do so. Adults have sex
hormones raging through their bodies. Prepubescent
children do not. When would be the best time of
life to learn about human bodies?
Before children
have to start dealing with sexual urges.
Yet,
astoundingly, we think the most terrible thing of
all is to allow a child to see an adult naked.
What tragedy!
Instead, we force
children to wait until they enter puberty. Then
they not only have to deal with their curiosity
driven by a natural and wholesome desire to become
educated, but also driven by these brand new,
nearly overwhelming sexual urges. They get it all
dumped on them at once and are left alone to deal
with it on their own.
Is it any wonder
there is sexual dysfunction in our society? Is it
any wonder teen sexual activity and pregnancy and
venereal disease run rampant in our society?
Is this not true
child abuse?
Make no mistake
about it, once children reach puberty, they
will start educating themselves, one way or
another. If parents or some other adult authority
figure doesn't help them do it, they will do it on
their own.
And we all know
how they will do it.
They will gather
misinformation from friends as ignorant as
themselves. They will develop addictions to
pornography. They will experiment with nudity and
sex among themselves, ignorant of the dangers
involved. And they will do it all with a ghastly
emotional stew of sexual arousal, shame, guilt,
and rebellion mixed into it.
Oh yes, this is
much better than allowing children to experience
nudity under careful adult supervision before
their sexual hormones start to flow.
An adult allowing
a child to see him or her nude is child abuse? No,
no. The law that criminalizes letting a child see
an adult nude is child abuse.
Nudity that is
intended to be shocking or sexual or threatening
or lewd through the individual's intent and
behavior--now that's child abuse. But legally
defining the mere existence of nudity as lewdness
or obscenity is an evil, archaic notion that must
be stamped out.
Children are
never taught to accept the aging cycle of human
beings. Everyone dreads getting old. We think old
bodies are ugly. We fear them. For God's sake,
cover them up! And lo and behold, look at the
youth-worshiping culture we now have. Coincidence?
Billions of
dollars are spent on cosmetics, clothing, even
surgery, to try and pretend we're not getting old.
Why? Because we fear it. Why? Because we never see
it.
Because we
constantly hide our bodies from one another, we
never get to see the natural aging life cycle of
human bodies. That which is hidden from us is
mysterious and frightening.
If we could
simply see human bodies in all the different
stages of aging on a regular basis, it would be a
familiar sight to us, a comfortable sight. Aging
would be a natural thing, not something to fight
tooth and nail in dread.
Is it not
emotional abuse to teach people to fear the
natural life cycles of their own bodies?
Children, like
all people, equate their bodies with themselves.
They are their bodies. If we teach them to
be afraid and ashamed of their bodies (and we do),
they will be ashamed of themselves. And thus a
rampant epidemic of self-loathing thrives in our
culture.
Especially our
girls. The most beautiful women in the world still
think there's something wrong with their bodies.
Children are
killing themselves over poor self-image. The girl
that purges or starves herself to death because
she can't accept her body is a victim of the
self-loathing that anti-nude attitudes help to
foster. The gang banger who carries a gun and
kills someone for "dissing" him is literally
killing children over self-esteem. "You disrespect
me, you die."
And where does
this rampant lack of self-esteem come from? The
causes are complex, but how can the lifelong shame
we feel over our own bodies not be a contributor?
Our luxury of
hiding nudity from each other may even be killing
our children. Never mind emotional abuse. This is
physical abuse of the ugliest kind. All because we
don't want to see a nude human body.
That's where the
true shame lies, not in our bodies!
Many children
never get to feel totally comfortable with the
opposite sex and never get an adequate education
on human bodies to satisfy their curiosity. Most
children will not tolerate this situation forever.
If the adult community won't satisfy their need
for knowledge in safe, appropriate, supervised
environments, they will do it on their own. They
will do it in any way they can. Since the adult
community forbids them from experiencing nudity in
safe, wholesome ways, they will resort to other
means.
As they resort to
other means, their normal, natural desire to
satisfy curiosity gets mixed up with all sorts of
negative feelings. Guilt, shame, embarrassment,
self-loathing, fear of punishment. Because these
negative emotions keep many children from doing
too much experimenting before puberty,
experimenting happens after puberty when the
powerful sex drive overcomes the negative
emotions.
So now we have
guilt, shame, embarrassment, fear, and
self-loathing associated with sexual arousal too.
And we expect healthy adult relations to develop
from this?
Because the
adolescent feels all these negative emotions
associated with normal and natural curiosity and
sexual urges, and because the adolescent is still
trying to develop effective skills at relating
with the opposite sex, that adolescent will feel
intimidated by the opposite sex.
So what will some
adolescents do? Resort to less intimidating
individuals to do their experimenting with. Resort
to younger children.
And a possible
sexual predator is born.
Do I even need to
point out how this is emotional abuse?
Our society in
the last few decades has become more and more
antagonistic toward nudity. Where once
skinnydipping was the norm among Boy Scouts and
required at YMCA pools, where once locker rooms
were actually used to change clothes in, where
once doctor's offices were a place where doctors
could easily access the human body they were
supposed to give medical attention to, we now have
a near absence of nudity anywhere in normal life.
Nowhere can we
find wholesome, nonsexual images of the nude human
body. Nowhere can we enjoy the affirming, even
healing experience of being nude in front of
someone else and be accepted for who we are. We
have forfeited all images of the human body to
those who would portray it in sexual and degrading
ways. All because, from birth, we are brainwashed
into believing nudity is harmful.
And why do we do
that to our children? Because our parents did it
to us. Because their parents did it to them. And
so on and so on.
When will we
break this destructive cycle?
No one ever
tries, because no one ever thinks about it. You
don't question something that has been brainwashed
into you every minute of your life since birth.
But we need to
question it. The emotional and physical health of
our children are at stake. In some cases, even
their very lives are at stake. Aren't these
important enough reasons to question something
you've simply assumed was true all your life?
Family
Skinnydippers is very serious about these issues.
Perhaps now you can understand why social nudity
is so important to us. This is not merely a
lifestyle choice. This is not merely the enjoyment
of nude recreation. This is a vital cause to us.
It's a cause we feel is worth fighting and
sacrificing for.
Do we demand
constant nudity?
Of course not.
There are many times when nudity would be
uncomfortable, even downright unhealthy.
Do we demand that
everyone be nude, whether they like it or not?
Perish the
thought. That would be as immoral as using the law
to force everyone to wear clothes all the time.
All we ask is
that those who wish to be nude under reasonable
circumstances be allowed to do so. Not for shock
value, not for sexual titillation, not for
confrontational purposes, not for exhibitionist
urges. Simply because nudity is a natural,
comfortable, pleasant, wholesome, healthy thing to
be every so often. Those who enjoy it ought to be
able to do so. Those who don't enjoy it don't have
to do it at all.
But what if a
person is offended at nudity?
Our blunt answer
to that person: grow up. Why should people be
forced by threat of law to do something they
strongly disagree with, if the only harm to you is
that you choose (emphasis on the word
choose) to be offended?
The amazing truth
that our society has a hard time grasping because
the brainwashing is so pervasive, is that human
beings get used to nudity very quickly. How can a
lifetime of brainwashing be overcome literally
within hours, if not minutes? That's a testament
to how unnatural and pointless the brainwashing
was in the first place.
If you're afraid
you'll be shocked at the nudity of others, that
will wear off quickly. If you're afraid you'll be
sexually aroused at the sight of nudity, perhaps
you will be for a while. But even that loses its
power in a short time. The overwhelming
realization of the vast majority of people who are
finally exposed to normal, nonsexual nudity after
a lifetime of brainwashing is that it was never a
big deal in the first place.
The only
embarrassment we need to feel about nudity is how
frightened over nothing we were all our lives.
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